The Toronto Trip

As I write I am on a flight back to Hong Kong from Toronto, after what seems like a "Hit and Run" trip. (H & R means the whole thing was a blur and hardly long enough!) Definitely a transformational trip, though… there was discussion amongst the family members as to what defined a good holiday. One person explained that food was the mark of a good holiday. For me, it is not wanting the holiday to end and feeling it linger in my mind’s eye for days, weeks, even months. That’s what July 8 to 17 was like for me… despite being hit and run, those nine days came packed with a punch that still has me spinning. Read on to find out why and come back in a few days to learn more.

After landing in Toronto, the kids were remarkably good about adjusting to the jet lag. We had a few incidents of wee hour wake-ups but were able to get everyone back to sleep until 5 AM the first night, 6 AM the second night, and then 7:30 AM the third night. After that point everyone pretty much slept right through. We did have some strange moments two nights in a row, though. The first night Sebastian’s Leapfrog Leapster kept turning itself on. Eventually it ended up in the hallway table outside Sebastian’s room… not sure how that happened but presumably Seb out it there after being annoyed by the educational toy repeatedly turning itself on. The second night Tess and I awoke to the sound of triplets rousing themselves in their cribs down the hall. "This is it," I thought, "they’ll be up forever."

I walked into their room to discover the light on… a feat impossible for either of them to have done due to them being securely imprisoned in their cribs. I looked at Sela and asked. "What’s going on? Who turned the light on?" Sebbie, she replied. I turned off the light and settled them back to sleep. It was about 3 AM.

Walking back to bed I checked in on Sebastian, who was sprawled perpendicular across his bed. It’s possible he had been sleep walking… or was the light and the Leapster part of the unexplained as Alan Spragett would have described. Hmmmm…

As far as jet lag was concrned, middle of the day was a different story. 24 hours after landing we forced the triplets out of their afternon nap. Even I felt ugly and crappy – the trips whined and cried full blast for about an hour post-nap. Determined to get them adjusted to the Toronto time zone, we bribed them awake with apple juice and sweeties, and took them down to the Royal Canadian Yacht Club for a walk and play. This included a boat ride that they loved. By the time we finished a McD’s dinner afterwards all were ready for a big sleep.

Saturday, July 8 my family kindly hosted a BBQ for Toronto friends and family. About 50 people floated through my dad’s backyard during the course of the afternoon and early evening. It was a very special afternoon with family we hadn’t seen for years and friends I hadn’t seen for even longer. There were a few appearances from people previously written about on this blog, too…

"Got Joy" James, the wingman who I wrote about in "No Joy." James and his wife Lorraine brought "bubbles" for the triplets that were incredibly popular and helped fight off jet lag for several hours, too. See Sela at left trying her hand at the bubbles! At one point during the afternoon the kids were so whingey from jet lag that we had to take them inside to watch The Wiggles. (And of course, The Wiggles make the adults whingey… can’t win!)

Friends from Trent University including Dan (at right in picture) who was instrumental in summoning the 1982 calling I wrote about in The Dedication. Years had passed since I last saw these friends… and probably nineteen years since I last saw Dan!

Friends Julie, Ellen and Donna who I hadn’t seen in over ten years. I know them through Alison who passed away this past March. Everyone looked terrific, as if they hadn’t aged at all and were still capable of having more fun than humanly possible!

Last but not least was Lauren from “Lalaland,” a blog friend Tess and I have known for a few years but have never met in person. Lauren, her baby and a friend drove six hours from Ottawa to attend the BBQ. A huge effort and we are so pleased to have met her… full of life and passion – truly wonderful person. Tertia… we hope you are insanely jealous that we’ve now met Lalaland but YOU haven’t… nah nah nah nah nah!

There were also lots of friends from the BC Yachts days – a marine maintenance company I ran in Toronto from 1979 to 1992. During the afternoon we joked about the BBQ being a BC Yachts reunion! It was a fun time that passed all too quickly.

Sunday morning my sister Carolyn arranged for a professional photographer to take pictures of the family (the six of us at left, taken on our Nikon by the photographer – official photos have not yet arrived) after which we all headed up north to cottage country. Tess drove with my dad, Sela and Carys. I drove with Lita, De and Jasper. Sebastian drove with his cousin Galen and family. Penny and family drove the fourth car.

A few hours later we landed halfway between Minden and Dorset where we took a boat to Comak: an island where a family friend has several cottages nestled into gorgeous Ontario Cottage Country. Words couldn’t possibly describe this wonderful and picturesque place, but perhaps the pictures in the attached album might help.

Fun in the sun included:

Scrumptuous dinners cooked on the BBQ

Lots of swimming off the dock. Sebastian was in heaven and of course, completely fearless. We even managed to get all the trips in the water, too. Carys was shyest, though, preferring to sit on the rocks or dock to watch the activities. At one point Carys decided she was ready to jump in the water. I didn’t bother changing her – she went in clothes and all.

Catching a few fish that Lita and De steamed up Hong Kong style with onions, ginger and peppers. The small ones were spared. Somehow the kids managed to catch a snapping turtle, too, also released a few hours later back into the water.

I was generally bagged by the end of each day but on the Thursday night managed to stay awake long enough for some camp songs and a cigar! We had Dave’s guitar, Dad’s banjo, me picking on the tub vile and lots of wonderful voices. We didn’t sing for too long and for that Ii am sure the neighbours were grateful.

Of course, no holiday would be complete without yours truly building a boat! In 1978 I built "Galileo" from scratch, modeled after the Canadian Cup racer "Manitou" and first launched on the Marblehill pond. For 28 years the model boat sat in my parent’s basement. Last week I chose to put the model through a "functional re-fit." In other words, back into sailing condition but not necessarily meticulously beautiful. Here you can see Manitou sailing in 1978 and Manitou from last week. Since the name never really sat that well with me, we re-Christened the model after the design namesake "Manitou." Dad supplied the champagne.

For more pictures please click here to be taken to the photo album.

The Dedication

Today Tess & I had Sebastian, Jasper, Sela & Carys Dedicated at Union Church. In preparation for this event many people asked, “What’s a Dedication?” Here’s one answer: Baptism, in the purest sense of the definition, should be an individual’s choice. But not everyone agrees with this definition. For several hundred years, various mainstream variations of The Church have been conflicted over Baptism. Therefore, a "Dedication" is giving thanks to God for the children, the parents promising to raise the children according to Christian principles and beliefs, and asking God to cover the children in His grace, love and protection until such time that the children are able to chose Christianity on their own and then at that time be Baptized.

Here’s another answer:

Dedication: Christian warranty obtained in lieu of Baptism for infants and young children. Good for approximately fifteen years. Regular servicing recommended otherwise warranty may be void by God.

We held the Dedication at the 11 AM service, and it truly was a very, very special time. Here are some of the highlights:

We invited many friends from Hong Kong. As a result, fifty-six people attended from outside the Union Church family. The sanctuary was packed and ushers were laying down extra chairs.

Yours truly started with a twelve minute Testimony (Testimony can be found below). Pastor David Marriott introduced me in the context of the triplets being born premature, and how the Union Church family prayed for the triplets.

I gave the Testimony at the 9:30 service, too. At 9:25 roughly thirty guests arrived from all over the world. Apparently a former Union Church pastor was leading a Christian tour group into China, and had Union Church as one of the stops on the itinerary.

Despite being an accomplished public speaker who has spoken to a total of 30,000 people in my career, I have never been as nervous as I was prior to the first Testimony. I was absolutely twisted inside out and had to go to Pastor May Tsui for prayer to calm myself down minutes prior to walking up the aisle. Many thanks also to Dale for praying with me before each service.

At the 11 AM service I was not nervous. I was in awe. The sanctuary was completely full and busting at the seams. I sat at the back of the sanctuary with Jesus in my mind’s eye. Instead I had a strange feeling akin to, “This is it, the aisle is like a runway and I am about to take-off in a jet.”

“Yes, it is,” God replied, “Or to change your life metaphor from military analogies to other more peaceful analogies, you’re about to set sail on a brand new course. Walking down the aisle will be a fresh breeze in your sails, my friend. But either analogy will do. The important thing is – you’re walking down that aisle.”

“I’m going public now,” I thought.

“Yes, you are… and it is good,” God replied.

As you will read below, I spoke about Sebastian towards the end of the Testimony. When Sebastian heard me talking about him, he turned to Tess and said, “Mummy, yes, I do that!” Tess asked if Sebastian wanted to be with me at the front of the Church. He replied with a yes and ran up the aisle for the last minute of my talk.

Upon my finishing the Testimony, Pastor Marriott invited the family to the front of the Church. The triplets ran towards me and the congregation broke into applause.

During the Dedication the kids stared back at the congregation, recognizing many faces. Throughout the ceremony, Jasper, Sela and Carys called out various kids’ and people’s names… “Margot… Mila… Lita… Annie… Max…!” It was very sweet.

We arranged for Starbucks coffee and tons of munchies for the social hour afterwards. The service ended at 12:05 and we finally left the Church around 1:15.

Tess & I had a wonderful time and reportedly everyone else did, too… I have invited them to leave comments below so hopefully you can read for yourselves!  To those that attended, thank you for making this a very special day. Thank you also to those who were unable to be there but were praying in their absence.

~

The Testimony

Testimony given by Charles Caldwell at Union Church on Sunday, June 11, 2006 in honour of the Dedication of children Sebastian, Jasper, Sela & Carys.

Good morning. I’d like to start what I have to say today with a piece of scripture and a prayer for you. The scripture is from 2 Corinthians 5:17 and reads as follows: “If any man is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come.” And now, a prayer for you…

“Heavenly Father, I hold up the congregation today, covering them in prayer. Some visit here every week, some occasionally, and some are here for the dedication of our children. Lord, Tess & I thank you and them for their friendship and support. I pray that their minds, ears and hearts will listen anew to the messages in today’s service… that your Holy Spirit will gently come upon each person, that none will be afraid of your light touch – whether affirming or wooing. I ask that after leaving here today, old things will have passed away, and new things will come to be for each individual. I ask this in Your Name. Amen.”

If I were to describe my walk with Christ, I would use the analogy of breakfast. Imagine in your mind’s eye the aroma of brewed coffee, squeezed orange juice and a Hong Kong favourite, Eggs Benedict, made with fresh farm eggs and Canadian back bacon. Pretend for a moment that the breakfast represents a relationship with Christ and let’s look at the parties involved with such a breakfast… the hen and the pig. The hen, contributing the eggs, is what we call “involved.” But the pig… the pig is committed. The point is, for most of my life, I’ve only been contributing eggs to Christ’s breakfast.

Meanwhile, I have a lifelong secret that I’ve kept closely guarded from the world. For most of my life, I’ve sensed a strong calling from God. The earliest, most distinct recollection of that calling came while at university in 1982. During a confusing and troubling period at school, I was hit with a powerful, supernatural experience that could only have been God. (And by the way, it wasn’t Pub Night!) In the days and months that followed that moment, I rationalized and reduced the event into an inconsequential incident. God’s supernatural touch went silent in my life.

I have often heard that “Jesus comes to us in ways we can receive and experience him.” What does that mean? It means that God woos us in ways that we can hear, see and anticipate Him. But we also need to remove our filters and be willing to look. Stop for a moment and ask yourself, “Is God wooing me?” Is He wooing you through gorgeous sunsets, small miracles such as surprise parking spaces, the unexpected kindness of a best friend when you need it the most… or maybe even in the most unusual of places… the music of a rock star like Bono – a publicly declared Christian and the lead singer for U2.

Looking back, I have so many examples of God’s extraordinary, twenty year courtship it would take hours to describe. But I fought and ignored Him in every possible way. I used to arrogantly say, “Someday, Lord, I might answer your call but right now, the jury’s out.” Then in June 2002 while Tess & Sebastian were in Canada, I came to Union Church on my own volition, as opposed to coming because I wanted to be the good husband who accompanied Tess.  Standing in the back of this very church, while singing “Breathe on Me Breath of God,” the Holy Spirit came upon Charles to lightly test the waters. This time instead of fighting or resisting His presence, I chose to let Him in and bask in His grace.

A month late, my mother suddenly became very ill. As the illness progressed I prayed, “If it is not your will, Lord, to take my mother then I ask that you heal her immediately and quickly. If it is your will to take my mother, I accept that, but I ask that you take her quickly so that she suffers little.” Jesus wooed me by answering my prayer and my mother passed away within days. There was probably little suffering. Obviously my personal preference was for my Mother to live, but I should add that my loving memories of being with my family in the week after my Mother’s passing are very, very special indeed. Despite such a clear and distinct communication from God, I continued to be a hen. I was still only involved.

Jesus not only puts miracles and grace in front of us, He also puts hurdles and lessons in our paths. We can either gracefully jump over the hurdles or be thrown over. Visualize that for a moment… getting thrown over a hurdle hurts. The point is that somewhere along the way, God said, “I think I need to give Charles a hurdle.”

That hurdle arrived on February 23, 2004, when our triplets were born 14 weeks premature. I don’t know how much you know about premature babies, but 26 weeks is just past what doctors call the “Border of Viability.” Each baby had a 60% chance of survival. Statistically one of them would die. Anecdotally, all of them could live. Born by emergency c-section, I was not allowed to be with Tess along with the other sixteen doctors and nurses in the OR.

Instead I stood in the hallway of QMH as I watched a team of four people hurriedly rush each baby to the NICU. The scene was dreamlike… with each baby weighing in around 1 KG or less, the doctors used their thumbs to perform CPR on the babies tiny little bodies while other nurses manually resuscitated with The Bag. For the next hour and forty five minutes I knew nothing. My mind went to work on all the terrible fantasies possible of whether they were alive or dead.

Tess’ mother, Maureen, shared in my terror, calling my mobile from Canada every ten minutes. Finally Maureen asked in frustration, “Charles is there anything new you can tell me?”

“No,” I replied in exasperation, “I don’t even know if they are alive.”

The next few minutes, after that phone call, were probably the lowest of my life. My being felt sucked dry and listless. I felt completely and totally alone. If one or more of the babies died I had no idea how Tess & I would cope. I was distraught. Eventually, best friends Dale & Steph arrived. I buried my head in Dale’s shoulder and wept.

In situations like this people often ask, “Where’s God? Lord, how could You let this happen? I am angry at you.” I never asked this question for two reasons. First, it’s no secret that the triplets are IVF babies. We went into that IVF cycle praying for one baby, but if it was God’s will, we’d take three. People often joke, “Be careful what you pray for!” So true in our case and I could therefore never turn against God’s will, knowing we’d told Him we’d take three. (Plus, a side note, it’s biblically not prudent to knowingly turn against God’s will!)

The second reason, though, was probably the more important one for me. Instead of asking “Lord, how could You let this happen?” I asked, “Lord, what are you trying to teach me?” There was no immediate answer. But in the next few days as Tess and I created a web site for people to follow the triplets’ progress, the most remarkable miracles came to be. Out of what seemed like a tragedy and potential disaster, people all around the world were brought closer to Christ.

For example, in Bangalore, India a Hindi colleague of mine wrote me an e-mail describing how he visited the Infant Jesus Shrine to light a prayer candle for each one of the triplets, Tess, Sebastian and myself. While not a follower of Christ he prayed as if he were. I was so touched I wrote about him on our web site. Remarkably, another Bangalore colleague of mine – and a member of the oldest Christian Church in India – read the web site, was even more beset by the Hindi’s prayers and wrote me the following. “Every day I pass by this Infant Jesus Church on my way back and forth from home to office and haven’t stopped for once for the sake of the babies and this friend of yours, being a Hindi, has visited and prayed for your sake. I’ll pray God to forgive my sins today at that Church and light a Candle not just for the babies but for myself, too.” 

Hardly three days old and the triplets were already an extraordinary witness to Christ.

Hebrews 12:1 reads, “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us.”

The intermingling of these gestures deeply swayed me. It became apparent to me… the emotional and psychological stress overflowing onto me, the threat of the triplets dying, was the disciplining hand of Christ that quickly turned to grace. When I asked “Lord, what are you trying to teach me?” He spiritually answered inside my heart, “You’re barely involved with Me, Charles, and certainly not committed. How do you plan to leap over this hurdle?”  In scripture God answered with 1 Corinthians, Chapter 4:2 which reads, “Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful.” I remember being alone at home that first night the triplets were born and begging Jesus, “Please don’t let these babies die.” While I didn’t know it at the time, God’s answer came in 2 Corinthians 12:9, “My grace is sufficient for you. For my power is made perfect in weakness.”

The three month and ten day NICU experience was beyond surreal… full of stress, terror and the unknown, God’s grace and sense of humour assured us that The Terrific Trio would survive. For example, one day Jasper, only six weeks old and still less than gestational age, jettisoned his soother out of his incubator like a baseball pro. The Lord said, “this is just the beginning… wait until he has the car keys.”

Around the same time Sela, had a rather explosive incident in the middle of a nappy change, decorating an extensive portion of her incubator’s interior. The nurses had to change her incubator. In the middle of the giggles I could not help but sense God saying, “My grace is sufficient for you.”

Then there was Carys… the tiniest and youngest of the three but don’t be fooled. Carys is full of will. At three weeks old Carys was infected with an illness called aspergillosis. This disease comes with a shocking mortality rate of 60 to 90% in premature infants. It’s usually diagnosed post mortem. Carys went on a short and lethal drug cocktail. If aspergillosis didn’t kill her, the drugs might. Carys was so close to death, the doctors walked through the process of “pulling the plug” if that final moment came upon us. In those few days I cannot tell you how many people around the world prayed for Carys… hundreds… maybe thousands. During the NICU ordeal the web site had over 100,000 hits.

A few days later I walked into the NICU for my daily visit when a doctor reported, “Carys is improving.” The doctor and I discussed at length what medical treatment or medical circumstance brought about Carys sudden turn. As a doctor’s son my natural curiousity needed to be satisfied and I was sure my Dad would want to know, too. No sufficient answer could be provided. Finally the doctor looked at me and said, “To be honest, I’m not really able to clinically explain why Carys is getting better.” Once again I heard God say, “My power is made perfect in weakness.”

So far I have spoken about three children… there is a fourth, Sebastian… Saint Sebastian is the Patron Saint of Soldiers and since Seb is huge Buzz Lightyear fan we are reminded of that fact every single day! I recently wrote on my blog, “Who do our children see when they look at us? Do they see a cynical, busy person rushing around answering e-mails on the Blackberry? OR, do they see a calm, patient teacher… leader… or even Jesus? Similarly, who do we see when we look at our children? Do we see a naughty, cranky kid… OR do we see God’s grace… innocence, love… or even Jesus?”

When I look at Sebastian I see a Child in the Light. During the NICU ordeal Sebastian waited with patient exhilaration. When the first baby came home Sebastian was so excited he could barely contain himself. When the second baby came home he was very, very happy. When the third baby came home he fell to the floor crying. “What? Another one?” To be honest, though, he missed his nap that day.

In reality Sebastian welcomed the Terrific Trio into his life with open arms. For example, while the babies napped, Sebastian, only 2.5 years old, would place small toys at the triplets feet for them to play with when they woke-up. Yes, there are many moments when Sebastian teaches me how to have a heart lead by God.

Today marks two years and a few days since the Terrific Trio came home from the hospital and since Sebastian’s divine juxtapositioning of toys. As a family we’ve covered much ground in that time. Looking back I can see how God held our hands as we leapt over the prematurity hurdle. Praise be to God, there are no known major health or developmental issues at present or on the horizon for Sebastian or the Terrific Trio. Today’s Dedication is symbolic of Tess & me thanking God for our four children and our desire that they lead a life graced by Jesus Christ’s love, peace and joy.

Normally, parents would have their children Dedicated at a much younger age. But quite frankly, the events of the last several years have been a little tiring. While we’re only getting to this now, we know Jesus forgives us.

As for me and my walk with God, Jesus continues to woo me as old things have passed away. I’m no longer fighting God. I have surrendered to His will and from here on in have chosen to be an obedient servant. I’m not perfect by any means but I can convey that if you were to venture near Christ’s table for Eggs Benedict… you won’t find me clucking nearby; no you’ll find me fully committed. God is now wooing me with new paths that I suspect will require considerable preparation. As the new things come, I hold out my hand to grasp His and say, “Okay, let’s go, Lord… how high this time?”

Thank you.

Alright you lurkers… if this blog entry touched you, please let me know in the comments and then pass it on!  Thanks!
.

Jasper has NOTHING!

Jasper had a rough Saturday afternoon but bounced back on Sunday. With JJ’s illness and Carys’ fever (so far that’s all it is), they stayed home on Sunday morning with Tess while I took Sela and Sebastian to church. After church I decided to treat Sela and Seb to lunch at the Aberdeen Boat Club, a little sailing club we recently joined. We had a great time playing in the playground and eating lunch afterwards. By Sunday early evening Sebastian was definitely fighting a bug and he had to lay low for most of Monday.

Back to Jasper… this afternoon I got a call from Dr. Thondup – have to tell you, pretty rare to get a personal call from a doctor these days and for that I appreciate Thondup – to report on JJ’s lab tests from last week. So here is the diagnosis: nothing. No Scarlet Fever, no measles of any sort, no Kawasaki Fever… nothing.

“So, it’s just a flu thing?” I asked puzzled.

“Yes, just a flu with a rash and a fever… sometimes it happens.” Thondup replied.

Thondup asked how the other kids were doing. I told him that both Carys and Seb seemed to be getting a fever but nothing more at this point. He asked what we were doing for them and I explained, “Same as Jasper, keep the fever down, lots of fluids, watch for worsening.” Then Thondup said a very sweet thing… “Good, trust daddy’s instinct!” I thanked him for calling and assured him we’d call if the situation worsened. (Left: Seb sweats up a small storm Sunday evening as the Ibuprofen breaks his fever.)

Meanwhile, Jasper officially inherited Seb’s Nemo PJs and I am telling you, Jasper could not be more delighted. A little too tight for Seb, the jammies were handed off to Jasper tonight. Jasper, more and more returning to his normal self, was ecstatic. (As can be seen here, taken Monday evening.)

On another note, I introduced a concept on the weekend that was quite unpopular in the household. A while ago we started giving the Terrific Trio half a One-A-Day vitamin that we called a “sweetie.” Other items that fall into the “sweetie” category include chocolate and other candies. Sela is hilarious when she yells out “SWEEETIIIEEE!” with her hands and arms outstretched like an Olympic gymnist at the end of her routine. The vitamins are quite tasty and there is no resistance to eating them. So, why call them sweeties?

Similarly, when we give the Terrific Trio any drugs or medicine, we’ve been calling it “juice.” Again, the “label” is more likely to have them consume the drug, however, kids’ drugs these days rarely have an offending taste. So why call Bubble Gum cough syrup “juice” other than it’s hilarious to see the response?

K, so pragmatic Chuck has a problem with calling the drugs and vitamins “sweeties” and “juice.” First, I don’t need to explain that any of the drugs we use would be serious in an overdose situation. Ibuprofen, acetaminophen, or any number of the daytime and nighttime cough syrups on hand, if not administered properly, could seriously harm a toddler. Second, the vitamins are just as dangerous. The label on the chewable multivitamin bottle reads: WARNING: There is enough iron in this package to seriously harm a child. Keep out of reach of children. What if one of the kids got their curious paws on cough syrup or vitamins (which we obviously keep well out of reach) and consumed far too much? How we would we know?

SCENE 1:

Kid says excitedly: Daddee I had joose!

Daddy: Wow, aren’t you lucky! (Mental note: I hope you eat your dinner!)

SCENE 2:

Kid says excitedly: Daddee I had medson!

Daddee: Really? Please show me what medicine you had.

Got the picture? So the point is, if we don’t teach the proper words for vitamin or medicine, then in the event of an accident the child will never be able to tell us. Unfortunately this concept has gone over like a lead balloon in our home because giving the Terrific Trio their joose and vitmins is not nearly as climactic. Better safe than sorry, though. Don’t you agree? (Left, Sunday… the kids playing on the fire engine that Sebastian built.)

.

Saturday AM update

Here is a smorgasbord of different things happening around the household this morning. Yesterday Sebastian attended a birthday party. In the treatment (can you tell one of our kids is sick?) I meant treat bag handed out at the end of the party Seb received a Buzz Lightyear with a parachute. This means he now has two small Buzz Lightyear’s. Sebastian seems to understand that the yellow thing is a parachute, but he insists on calling it a "power chute." I stopped correcting him after realising I didn’t want to suppress his creativity. Seb’s also struggling with "and beyond" using another word instead.

Sooo… things overheard this morning from Sebastian:

"Too infinity ambiance!"

One Buzz walks up to the other Buzz and asks, "We’re friends, right?"

"Oh yes," replies the second Buzz. Said conversation took place on yours truly’s shoulder as he was half asleep.

Judging by how much Jasper ate at breakfast this morning (full piece of French Toast and half a bowl of yoghurt) I think he may finally be on the road to recovery. This, however, after he was a complete and total miserable, irritable goat all day yesterday. To give you a sense of the battle he just fought I have attached the accompanying picture. (JJ and his teddy bear had a spat!)

Finally, I wrote earlier this week how the Terrific Trio have started saying grace. It sounds something like this… "Surap shurmn shappa fush nnng mmm hunh surap shurmnnn. Amen." In case you don’t believe us, I’ve attached this clip of Sela saying grace. Click here to download and enjoy. (Right click link with mouse, then select "Open In New Window.")

.

The morning after

Kids & I just finished a pancake breakfast. The trips were starving and the funniest thing happened as we all sat down and were about to say grace. Sela jumped the gun, put her hands together, and started frantically muttering a prayer that sounded like this: "Surap shurmn shappa fush nnng mmm hunh surap shurmnnn…"

Last night was Union Church’s Annual General Meeting. The event was a huge success with 81 voting members (last year reportedly about half that) and 116+ in total attending when we did a headcount. (Being in HR, I of course immediately thought, ‘headcount… how many people are here?’) Therefore, add in kids and the people outside the room at the time of my headcounting, there were easily 150+ people attending last night. A huge success for UC.

Tess, a little under the weather, stayed home with the triplets. Sebastian and I went. This involved a pep-talk with Seb late afternoon to insure he knew the ground rules… eat dinner there, listen to the adults, be in the kids’ playroom playing while daddy was in the big room with the adults. Involves staying up late = nap on Sunday. Sebastian agreed… we shook on it and he exclaimed, "It’s a deal." We took a taxi and made plans for De to pick us up later.

On previous church dinner events, Seb has been less than thrilled with the food. Tess & I had a discussion about this as I started to make peanut butter sandwiches. "I am making pbs’s in case Seb gets hungry later in the evening," I explained.

"Or he could just suck it up if he doesnt like the food," Tess replied.

Mental note: trust wife. I stopped making the sandwiches.

As it turns out, Sebastian was a darling… he ate Been Hon noodles (loved them – like those fishy ones in Phuket that Tess & I couldn’t stand but Sebastian inhaled them!), a sausage roll, slice of pizza, a brownie and a big bowl of Belgium chocolate mousse… who could go wrong with that? There was more food than one could imagine. The international theme insured there were dishes from all over the world. (Tess made Nanaimo Bars.) The meeting went right to 10 PM and by then Sebastian was getting pretty punchy… in fact, on the way home he was sooo loopy I wondered if someone slipped him a sip o’ somethin!

To sum it up, here is the big take away from the AGM… huge success from a fellowship perspective. Usual administrative items for the Church handled quickly and appropriately. And the new Committe of Management for 2006/2007 was appointed by the members.

I can just imagine the fax arriving in God’s office after the meeting. The Lord would pick-up the report while an apostle stood in front of him.

"Uh huh… Union Church new COM… who have we got here… good, good… OH… Charles is on the COM! Finally some obedience."

Apostle: "Yes, only 43 years to be obedient, too." [snicker]

Lord: "Yes, sometimes I just wish they’d all be like my Noah."

Happy Sunday, everyone! Surap shurmn shappa to you, too.

Breakfast @ Tiffany’s

Morning breakfasts typically involve the Terrific Trio lined up like a production line and Sebastian and I sitting at the dining room table. Weekend breakfasts are a special treat for Sebastian, since that’s when he is allowed to eat waffles, french toast or pancakes. Several months ago I introduced the concept of waffles, french toast and pancakes to the Terrific Trio. After they’d had their Weetabix, they’d be allowed a few pieces of waffles, french toast or pancakes each… they loved it.

A few weekends ago we changed everything now that the trips are pretty reliable at feeding themselves. Weetabix were thrown out the window, and the Terrific Trio enjoyed an entire breakfast of waffles, french toast or pancakes. In addition, we swung their chairs around so that the five of us all sat around the table together… our first official family breakfast, in fact our first official meal at home together. (We’ve gone out to our favourite family restaurants together, but never had a meal at home together.)

Sebastian discovered anew what it’s like to be a big brother… example…

Sebastian bangs fork several times against plate… triplets immediately mimic him.

"Sebastian," I calmly asked, "please don’t bang your fork."

"WHY?" he asked.

"Notice that when you bang your fork, Jasper, Sela and Carys do the same?" I explained. "It’s called being a big brother and they will do what you do."

"Oh wow!" he said in wonderment, testing the theory with a few more taps of his fork!

21,000 words

If a picture is worth a thousand words, we’ve slaved all day writing this essay.

Enjoy!

Yes, I am back in Hong Kong…

So sorry for the lack of updates… have been nutty crazy the last few days. I actually made it back from Hong Kong the end of last weekend after a last minute red-eye came available.  Since then, I have been pretty much "nose to the grindstone" at work and completing Tess‘ famous list… the list that seems to inflate each day.

Meanwhile, about a month ago it occured to me that pretty soon we would not have enough playground toys for the kids. As they learn to walk, they will each have their moments where the limited number of toys we have just wont cut it, and they are not always going to be happy riding the Kettler Trike as one big family! Therefore, I have been on the look-out for dirt cheap playground toys. Yesterday I found a perfect tractor and picked it up for next to nothing. I have wanted one of these for Sebastian for a long time, but brand new they are very expensive. After picking it up, much to my surprise I discovered it even comes with a trailor! That means, Seb can tow one of the trips (or friends)  around the playground anytime he likes. What’s better… the Terrific Trio will grow into it, too. The hunt continues. I figure we need one more item. I have added it to Tess‘ list so, it automatically becomes her idea!

Oh yes, and did I say walking? I think Tess has been keeping it a surprise that Sela is walking but yesterday one of our amahs let is slip out. "Sir, Sela is walking now!" she exclaimed.

"Yes, but only a few steps at a time," I replied. "No, SHE IS WALKING and Carys is almost walking, too!"

The surprise is not ruined… I will be very excited to seem them all.

The Kids Are Having a Ball

Tess, her family, Yellowknife friends & Lita are doing a terrific job looking after Sebastian and The Terrific Trio while on their summer holidays in Canada. As you can see by some of the pictures below, the kids are having a ball. Observations from the hundreds of pics I’ve been sent daily:

• All of The Terrific Trio are gaining weight
• Carys is losing the "preemie" look that Jasper and Sela lost long ago
• Carys and Sela are becoming quite bold, willingly climbing onto things they previosuly may not have dared to (such as climbing up and sliding down the slide on their own)
• Jasper just wants to eat… what else is new?
• I’ve also heard that The Terrific Trio will now eat fish sticks and on their own, too! Self-feeding… we like that!
• Rumour has it there has been no vomitting since they arrived in Yellowknife.
• Since arriving in Yellowknife Sebastian has regularly seen float planes on the lake, been in the cab of a real truck ("twuck" as he would say), driven a motor boat, dragged in an inflatable behind a motor boat… and get this… ridden a Jet Ski!
• Sebastian’s speech – as assessed from phone conversations with him – has dramatically improved. Also increased is the degree to which he speaks with an English accent!